D-is-for Don & Doña: What to call your in-laws? When I got married this is the exact question I asked my husband. As I was entering a very different culture he kindly said, “If it were me I would use Don & Doña.”
Ever since forming our family I have wanted to respect my suegros by giving them a title in front of their first name as they do here. Whenever I speak to my suegra I call her Doña Haydee. For my suegro I mention him by Don Celio (he has recently passed away).
This was never something that I had to really think about. It’s a great way to keep tradition and honor those who have so speak, put in their years. By no means do we use these “titles” because of an educational or economic status. There may be a few that do, but for the most part this is not the case. I look at it as showing respect to my elders.
My husband is a few years older than I am (7 ½) and the funny thing is people are starting to put Don in front of his name. I kind of laugh. Not in a bad way, but I can wait several more years before someone starts calling me Doña. Once I have more wisdom then I will love being Doña Rikaine.
When it comes to tradition, what are some ways you show honor where you are from?